How to Know If Your Child has been Sexually Abused at School

How to Know If Your Child has been Sexually Abused at School

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A school is the first phase of socialization for any kid, but beware; antisocial elements could be found in schools too. Yes, such crass-mentality people can do anything to any kid at broad daylight. The best way to ensure the safety of your kids is by disclosing them what they are ought to know for their protection.Child abuse is something that is quite frequent in schools. Even some teachers and school officials often indulge in such nefarious activities with cruel intentions.

It is relatively very difficult to trace out whether your child has been really sexually abused or not. There are two types of child abuses; one that involves direct touching and groping and another is sexually harassing them emotionally.

A direct sexual harassment of the kid is life-threatening and every parent needs to tackle the issue with an iron hand. Take your child to the nearby hospital to ensure that no serious damage has been done to his/ her private parts. Then you must stop sending your kids to the school and bring the unfortunate event straight to the notice of law enforcement agency so that the culprit shall be incarcerated.

In case, the person tries to harass your kid in an indirect manner then you need to stay cautious, and ensure that the child doesn’t meet that man or woman in future. Yes, perpetrators can be anybody men or women. Gender has nothing to do with it. A Cruel Intention is something that every parent has to stay cautious about.

Your Kid has Been Sexually Abused at Schools: Key Indicators

  1. Pain in Mouth or Genitals with or without discharges.
  2. Discoloration in the genital region.
  3. Pain during urinating.
  4. A sudden change in their behavior.
  5. Unexplained bruises, abrasions, black eyes and other injuries.

These are the serious indicators that your child has been sexually abused. It requires immediate treatment by a team of qualified and experienced doctors. You should encourage your child to spill the beans as what and how it happened so that doctors and law enforcement personnel could take appropriate action on an urgent basis.

Your Kid Has Mentally Faced the Agony of a Child Abuse

Perpetrators not always enter into physical contact with a child directly. He often follows a certain pattern and tries to first do friendship with the kid.

During such an interaction, he or she often does a lot of activities which are a clear indicator of the imminent sexual threat that the kid faces.

Such activities Include But Not Limited To:

  1. Playing Pornographic films in front of a kid.
  2. Showing his genitals to a child.
  3. Snapping pictures of the child in nude.
  4. Encouraging a child to watch adult films.

Parents have to stay watchful of these behaviors at school. Not meeting with the strangers won’t serve the purpose as the perpetrator can be a servant, teacher or any other person at the school.

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If a kid comes home with a sign of any mental worry or depression then the matter should be properly investigated. Since a child is emotionally abused so his behavior is bound to remain something different after the trauma.

Emotional Child Abuse of a Kid: Key Indicators

  1. A sudden change in a kid’s talking abilities.
  2. The child becomes silent.
  3. Excessive fear of going to school or meeting a particular person.
  4. An aggressive behavior on and off.
  5. Nightmare and change in sleep patterns.
  6. The kid wishes to stay alone most of the time.
  7. Depression, anxiety and unusual fears with a constant loss of self-esteem.
  8. Poor appetite.
  9. Poor hygiene.
  10. Lack of concentration in studies and sports.

There is a rule that parents should always behave like friends when talking to children. Openness and frankness are the two cornerstones of a parent-child relationship. You should be as much friendlier to your child that he or she should tell you each and everything.

Once you have identified the potential child abuse signs symptoms, your next step will be to take the child to a qualified doctor and psychiatrists for further treatment and counseling purposes.

10 Great Tips for Better Time Management

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We have everything but only thing that we lack these days is the time. So, time management is essential to a happy living. A day might be consisting of 24-hour but subtracting 8-hour of sleep from our daily routine, we are left with just 16 hours per day. Now, we have to manage our work and household stuff within this time frame.

Procrastination and irregular time table of our daily life schedules make it important to chalk out appropriate strategy for better time management. Easier said than done. A lot of people no matter how punctual they are in real lives tend to fail where time management matters.

#1) Schedule: Waking up in the morning, the first thing that you should do is to write your schedule on a pen and paper. Mention all the necessary things that you will do in the rest of the day. It includes essential meeting with clients or visiting new places (as per the demand of the job) and keep an expected time for these events. Eventually, at the work front, you will realise the actual deviation of these works so as to allocate more time for such works in future.

#2) Think it: Every action should precede with a thought. So, give a considerable time to think how you will spend the rest of the day.

#3) Analyze Each call and meet: Immediately, after any meet or telephone calls, you should analyze whether the meet or calls were productive or not. If these calls were not productive then you have to analyse what went wrong.

#4) Less time on social media and emails: You don’t need to answer to every petty email. Keep it reserved only for important messages. Also, try to spend lesser time on facebook. In recent times, social media has emerged out as the leading cause of distraction at workplace.

#5) Keep a pocket calendar: Keeping a pocket calendar is important to make sure that don’t miss out any important dates. You can also use Google calendar feature on your smartphone and tablet with an alarm to keep reminding you about new meets and events.

#6) Never Fail Deadlines: Many often, we don’t take deadlines seriously. But it is utmost important to treat each deadline with utmost respect. It not only ensures better time management but also lets you know how many things you can do within the deadline.

#7) Early Sleep and Wake up: Never compromise on your early morning schedule. Your goal should be to wrap your work early so that you can go to bed early in the night and then eventually after a good 8-hour sleep, you can wake up early in the morning feeling refreshed and healthy.

#8) keeping a tab on time: If you wish to follow your time management carefully then keeping an eye on clock or watch is necessary. Sometimes, we stayed focused on our work to such an extent that we forget the time factor. A clock or wrist watch with frequent alarms will keep reminding you whenever you go overtime.

#9) Learn the art of Prioritizing: Well, you can’t do all stuff and everything in a single day. You have to prioritise each activity in order of their merit and importance. High priority works are the ones on which you need to give your maximum attention to.

#10) Stay fit and eat Healthy: A lot of time often goes in vain due to health issues. So, your effort should be towards staying fit and fine. It will help you keeping illness at bay while saving your valuable time from falling sick.

Why Women Need to Trust Themselves More

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Women can do everything. From reaching the moon to scaling mountains – they are well capable of doing even the laborious unconventional tasks that were not meant to be. In the 21st century, women have to leverage the opportunity, scope and logical thinking in their favor.

Instead, women’s trust factor within themselves is somewhere lost in the battle of feminism and political upmanship. On the contrary, Women really need to trust themselves more rather than looking up to others for their own socio-economic development and well-being.

During the last US Presidential Elections 2016, the entire world prayed for the then US Secretary of the State Hillary Clinton’s victory out of emotion since the US has elected no female president ever in the history.

However, she was a non-performer and controversial figure. From deletion of emails from the official server to mishandling of Libyan crisis (When the US embassy was burnt down in Benghazi in 2012), the then secretary of the state Hillary Clinton has completely failed to manage those crises.

Even, Hillary Clinton once advocated for a child rapist in a 1975 court case and successfully defended him too. Yet, she still preaches for child rights and women empowerment and has an enormous fan support too.

So, nothing is translucent. Everything aspect has its black and white aspect too. Rather than putting blind faith in somebody, women need to empower themselves individually with right thoughts, education and self-defense techniques to lead a good, safe and dignified life.

Why Are Women Losing Trust on Others?

  • The deceitful behavior of men.
  • Exploitation at a workplace.
  • Rampant Domestic Violence.
  • Relegating the status of a woman by another woman.
  • The gap of Gender Parity still exists.
  • Unequal pay for same work (Income inequality between men and women)
  • Many women have inherent tendency to consider every other person as a potential aggressor leading to their lack of trust in others.
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Why Should Women Now Stop Blaming Others?

You can’t take the world so naively. It has several people having different thought processes and intentions. Though not everyone is an inherent criminal or male chauvinist, but your own safety and well-being are paramount.

You can’t always blame the law enforcement agency for everything. Common, you have to behave rationally too. Here is the checklist for every woman;

  • Don’t consider marriage as the “end of life” or beginning of a “heavenly journey”. It’s just a phase of life, accept it gracefully.
  • Marital rape and domestic violence should be vehemently opposed from the day one.
  • You should have enough education and skills to lead a happy life.
  • Any physical harassment at an office or public place should be dealt with an iron hand at an appropriate forum.
  • Learning same self-defense techniques could be extremely helpful to fightback incase of a threat.
  • Never settle for anything lesser than equal pay for equal work. Fight for it or else start your own business venture and be an example for others to follow.
  • Finally, discourage people, be it men or women, who try to demean your accomplishment and discourage you too often.

Women have to believe in themselves. Trusting oneself is the beginning of a social change. Be good, strong and rational. Women need to trust themselves more rather than blaming others for exploitation.

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The aftermath of Second World War saw a massive development in women’s self-confidence and self-belief as they had to raise their children sans male members. Always consider yourself independent and keep your confidence level high – that’s all.

How to Handle Online Harassment – Tips and Tricks for Women

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When it comes to online harassment of women, social media tops the chart. Be it Asia, Europe or anywhere else, the effect of lopsided patriarchal society and mindsets is making the world more uneven than before. While talking about cyber crimes, women suffer the most. Women are stalked and thrashed on social media for reasons best known to trollers themselves quite frequently.

Posting one’s views or expressing one’s opinion on social media is one’s fundamental rights but the way women face backlash for doing so is something that we should collectively ponder over. We have to remove this “online harassment” menace from our civilised world.

#5) Never Reveal Your Real Home Address

Well, posting your home address on social media is something that should be seriously avoided at all costs. However, you can always reveal your Post Box number or office address online for communication purposes wherever necessary.

#4) Treat All Incoming Calls with Caution

Obviously, not all incoming calls are necessary. You must figure out the relevance of the call first without receiving it. Especially, you should exert more caution if you receive a call in your personal mobile number from an unknown location and caller id.

#3) Never Disclose Confidential Details

Be it your bank account number, credit or debit card, or even Social Security Number – don’t disclose these details to anyone over social media. Online harasser or Cyber criminals may harass and harm you severely by physically, monetarily and mentally once they get these details.

#2) Protect Your Systems and Devices

Periodically, we should gauge the anti-virus effectiveness of our devices. Especially, for business women, virus in the personal and office system is a strict no-no as it may lead a hacker to infect your system and get back all crucial and sensitive data stored in the system. Always use quality and full proof anti-virus software round the clock in your devices.

#1) All Followers are Not Well-Wishers

Many social media users forget that not all followers are their well-wishers. Some of them could be criminals too – stalking you with a criminal intent. Trollers on social media sites like twitter and facebook have peculiar mentality; they stalk you to post threatening like rape/murder/Threat online to intimidate you for a reason or not.

Even though many of them get caught by the law enforcement agencies, a lot of them run away using fake IP addresses. So, self-care is the best remedy in such a situation. Without waiting for the cops to react – use your social media safely. Keeping your social media accounts in a private mode is a good option to know who you approve as your followers on receiving their requests.

Women Shouldn’t Fear Online Bullying

Never let online trollers dictate terms. You don’t need to fear and shutting out all your social media accounts. By doing so, they will become stronger in their nefarious intent and then go to harass another woman.

So, you have to use your social media accounts in a cautioned way without restricting your normal followers either. If you notice any suspicious activity or absurd comment hurled at you with a negative motive, then you should immediately block that person. Repeat it wherever necessary. It is the first line of defense against Cyber-bullying that women frequently face online these days.

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Last but not the least; never let online harassment shatter your confidence. Never hesitate to take the help from Police if you feel unsafe or find that a situation is getting out of hand. It is always better to be safe than sorry!

Top 9 Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso) Teachings You Must Know

Top 9 Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso) Teachings You Must Know

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Dalai Lama is a well known figure in the world of politics and spirituality. He was conferred with Nobel Peace Prize in 1989 for his relentless struggle against China to bring autonomous regime in Tibet while making it an independent state. Time and again, he also preached for peace all across the globe

Apart from his well known political campaign against China on grounds of human rights violation in Tibet, his Holiness Dalai Lama is also widely regarded for his inspirational quotes, speeches and teachings. He presented an ideal way to live peacefully in the world while disseminating the message of peace, love and harmony all around.

#1) “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves”.

The above quote amply reflects the need to calm our mind, body and soul first before we strive towards making world a better place to live in.

#2) “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”

The day people learn the real meaning of kindness, world will definitely become more peaceful. However, we need to make our brains receptive enough to grasp the positive aspect of life teachings. People shouldn’t fight over religions but realize the real meaning of it.

#3) “The purpose of our lives is to be happy.”

Happiness is the way of life. We should chase happiness first – everything else comes later.

#4) “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive”.

Humanity can’t survive sans compassion and love. They are necessary for a happy living. Humanity is in fact all about love and compassion. We must treat everyone around us with full respect and affection.

#5) “If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.”

God has given you a beautiful life to serve the mankind with the language of love, hope and compassion. You shouldn’t misuse it by using your energy towards anything that could eventually harm others. Follow the righteous path as always.

#6) “We are the controller of the technology. If we become a slave of technology, then that’s not good.”

Of course, technology is meant to help mankind. It is not something that should create more gaps within the humans. We should be able to use technology for positive purposes we must not become its slave.

#7) “Anger is the ultimate destroyer of your own peace of mind”.

Anger is the worst form of human emotion. Every time a person loses his temper he ceases to behave normal. People should combat every challenge in calm and intellectual manner without letting the feeling of anger affects him.

#8) “People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”

In the current days, when everything is measured in either my or highway dictum – this beautiful quote from his Holiness Dalai Lama XIV acts as a whiff of fresh air. Yes, people may choose different path to choose happiness but that doesn’t mean they are all lost. We shouldn’t judge others without understanding their Karma and purpose of doing anything.

#9) “The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness”.

Finally, if you wish to be a good human being then you should also have to appreciate the goodness around us. Goodness begets goodness and leads to well fare of the masses. Unless we appreciate the good deeds of the others, negative and pessimistic elements will keep our mind preoccupied and we won’t be able to do good things in our lives.

Mankind’s Deadliest Creation

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In 1939, the scientific community discovered that the Germans had found the secret to split a uranium atom. This they thought would make them capable of producing a bomb with power of incredible destruction.

Enrico Fermi and Albert Einstein fled the Nazi Germany to US to escape death. They wanted to inform the President of the United States about the atomic bomb technology with the opponent Axis Powers.

Fermi and Einstein tried to press upon the necessity to start an atomic research program with the then President Roosevelt. Roosevelt agreed and in 1941 America received the sanction of the Manhattan Project.

In the end of the ear 1972, Fermi along with a group of Physicists conducted the first controlled nuclear chain reaction at the University of Chicago. Since then the Manhattan project progressed at a rapid speed. About $2 billion dollars had been spent in the development of the atomic bomb. The project had employed over 120,000 people in America and the project had to be kept a secret somehow.

Roosevelt and Churchill agreed for secrecy and decided that Stalin to be kept uninformed. There was no awareness of something of this sort being existent and thus there was no debate. Only the most important and trustworthy scientists working on the project knew about it and all the 120,000 employees were kept uninformed about the bomb.

Interestingly, Vice President Truman did not know about the project until he became President himself.

On July 16, 1945 the bomb was tested by Robert J Oppenheimer at Trinity test site in New Mexico.

Impact of the trial

During the test, clouds formed by the bomb reached 40,000 feet height.

Windows of houses over 100 miles away was broken.

The test was successful and fake news about ammunition dump being exploded in the desert was created to hide the test.

The rest is history.

 

Rise of ISIS

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Rise of Islamic State a phenomenon that has scared the entire world. It’s controlled territory is as big as United Kingdom which cover huge oil supplies and covertly sells it to nations who too buy it without coming out in the fray.

So how did ISIS come to be?

What does it want?

When Soviet Union invaded Afghanistan in 1979, men from the middle east came to Afghanistan in support of the rebels who were fighting against the soviets and to overthrow the government. Who was right and who was wrong is a different discussion altogether. These people came to be known as Mujahideen (one engaged in holy war called jihad)

Osama Bin Laden was also one of them. He came from a rich bin Laden family of Saudi Arabia along with him was Abu Musab Zarqawi who was a Jordanian. These two failed to get along and thus both had their own faction. Bin Laden headed Al Qaeda and Zarqawi headed ISIS.

In the year 1989, the Soviets withdrew from Afghanistan after which Zarqawi and Bin Laden headed back to their countries. Laden started spreading the ideas of Al Qaeda and initiated a worldwide revolt against Islam’s enemies.

Eventually, both returned back to Afghanistan, which was then ruled by Taliban. After the September 11 attack on the Twin Towers of the United States of America, US declared war as Osama declared that he was the one who did it. Following invade, Osama hid in Pakistan, while Zarqawi hid in Iraq.

Two years later, United States under the Presidentship of George Bush and supported by UK invaded Iraq, which created unprecedented havoc in the middle east and which is responsible for the current mess in the subcontinent.

After Saddam’s Sunni dictatorship was toppled by American and supporting forces, they left the Iraqi soldiers as they were and left the country in turmoil without initiating a process to form a government in the country.

Eventually, the disbanded and financially ailing Sunni Iraqi soldiers join the insurgency since it was ready to pay them.  On the other hand, the Jihadist groups were also Sunni. The phase Iraq was entering into was a repetition of of what happened in Afghanistan.

This gave impetus to Zarqawi’s group who came to be the most ruthless group in Iraq. They attacked Shia, Iraq’s majority and igniting an unprecedented Shia-Sunni civil war in Iraq. They became popular among the jihadist groups and Al Qaeda was sidelined, thus Al Qaeda intending to bolster its image, formed an alliance with Zarqawi’s group came to be known as Al Qaeda in Iraq.

In 2006, Zarqawi was killed in a US airstrike and Al Qaeda in Iraq was weakened. This lead to withdrawal of US troops from Iraq in 2011 as Iraq looked stable.

Then came the Arab Spring in the same year, which spread across the middle east. In neighbouring Syria, Bashar al-Assad violently crushed down the protestors and the conflict lead to a civil war in Syria.

Assad released jihadists from prisons fearing his direct involvement will attract foreign intervention. In Iraq the the previously Al Qaeda in Iraq was being headed by a self proclaimed Islamic scholar Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi and was renamed as Islamic State of Iraq.

Baghdadi sent troops to Syria to help fight alongside rebel forces of Jabhat al-Nusra. Baghdadi eventually recruited new jihadists by after releasing prisoners of Iraq by attacking the prisons. This gave tremendous power to IS in Iraq and Baghdadi announced that will take control of the Al-Qaeda allies in Syria and Iraq and IS in Iraq became IS in Iraq and Syria.

The rest is history!

Why Pakistan named the Indian cyclone

Recently cyclone Vardah swept the Indian southern State of Tamil Nadu in which 18 people lost their lives along with widespread destruction of the green cover and infrastructure. Many livelihoods were uprooted and squatters displaced.

The name ‘Vardah’ means red rose in Urdu and was suggested by Pakistan. According to a report by the Indian Meteorological Department, through suggestions of several countries a comprehensive list of names of cyclones in the 1900s was formed. It was decided that the names would be feminine and that they would be in alphabetical order as the year proceeds. Later masculine names were given to the cyclones formed in the Southern Hemisphere.

The reason for such names were that they were easier to remember and identifiable for the general public.

The list was formed by eight countries – Bangladesh, India, Maldives, Myanmar, Oman, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, and Thailand, and covers the Bay of Bengal and the Arabian Sea.

If anyone wants to suggest a name they can write to IMD’s Director General of Meteorology.

So as to help quick identification of tropical cyclones, the system of naming began; it also makes it easier for media to report about the storm. It’s also easier to remember these names as compare to technical terms and increases preparedness.

How does the naming happen?

E.g. If a storm is names Antara, beginning with letter A, then that means that storm is the first to occur in that year. These names are maintained by the National Hurricane Center. Before 1900, the forecasters used male names for southern hemisphere cyclones, later on the names were taken from the lists by the hurricane center.

The names are updated and maintained by the World Meteorological Organization.

Below are the list of names and the pattern in which the names are written. The name Vardah also is mentioned in the list. You can check which name will be used next time any cyclone hits the Indian Ocean.

$618 Billion Defence Bill will push US-India Defence ties

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On December 24, US President Barack Obama signed a $618 billion defence policy bill. In this policy, there are mentions to US-India security co-operation.

Here are 5 most important things you need to know about this bill.

  1. This bill, known as the National Defence Authorisation Act (NDAA) was passed by the US House of Representatives and the Senate.

The bill talks about US security relations with Pakistan by saying that US will refocus” its security assistance with its cold war ally.

The bills says that it NDAA will “refocus security assistance to Pakistan on activities that directly support US national security interests and condition a significant portion of funding on a certification from the secretary of defence that Pakistan is taking demonstrable steps against the Haqqani Network in Pakistan territory.”

  1. Guantanamo Bay Facility

Obama’s big target of closing the brutal Guantanamo Bay Facility will not be achieved as the NDAA bill lays restrictions on Guantanamo Bay facility detainees being transferred.

  1. Army and Marine Corps

The NDAA bill authorizes 4, 76,000 active duty soldiers, increase of 16000 from earlier authorisation. The bill also authorises 1, 85,000 Marines, again an increase of 3000 more.

  1. US-India security co-operation

NDAA also promises to enhance security ties with India. This was categorized under the bill in “Supporting Allies and Partner” section.

  1. Increase in Funding

The bill also increased the base funding by $3.2 billion. It also calls for $5.8 billion more in war money requested by the White House.

How Impressionism changed the culture of Art

 

Traditionally, art and artists where about painting portraits, but impressionism hanged the concept and expression through art.

The spark of impressionism was first felt in 1862 with four young artists in a studio in France. Claude Manet, Camille Pissaro, Edgar Degas and Alfred Sisley were under the tutelage of Charles Gleyre. Charle’s style of painting was unconventional and was considered to be hostile to what traditional painters thought about art and reality.

The paintings of that time consisted majorly romanticism and neoclassicism which used thick brush strokes and dark colours. These paintings were hosted at the Salon De Perry, the most prestigious art exhibition of that time.

The cult of Salon de Perry was such that if a painter was not to show there, he was not to be taken seriously as a painter and thus had no career.

The impressionists on the other hand did what the other artists did not. They captured the reality as it was. They painted scenes as they were in everyday lives which at that time was not considered important or rather appropriate.

Napoleon rules France at that time and France was undergoing furious modernization. Napoleon ordered destruction of thousands of houses to make new modern ones on par with American modern infrastructure. These changes in everyday France was captured by the Impressionists in their paintings.

These paintings were so huge a success that people from other countries moved to Paris after being inspired by the paintings. This led to doubling of the city’s population.

In the second half of the 19th century, impressionists formed their own group and remained indifferent to political changed of that time. Their paintings were completely real based on true emotions and portrayal of natural beauty.

Moreover these artists were not inspired by money for their paintings rather they were inspired by painting realities. This was unacceptable to the artists of that time. This became evident when half of their 5000 paintings were rejected at Salon de Perry. Napoleon ordered a different exhibition for these rejected artists but it failed to generate good response and was also criticized extensively.

Interestingly the word impressionism was created by the art critics of the time who used the term to mock the artist’s impression of sunrise by Claude Manet. Inspired by the criticism, the young artists took up impressionism itself called themselves as the Impressionists.

Their paintings were not appreciated and they had to face several unsuccessful shows starting from their first show in 1874 in Paris. In 1886, they gave their last show and thus the era of the impressionists came to an end. By this point of time impressionism had spread across the western world through Claude Manet. He constant tried to spread the idea of impressionism and eventually succeeded in doing so. But by the time success hit his doorsteps, most of his fellow artists were not there to taste it.